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Forum Post: Is there a proper way to pay a compliment ?

Posted 10 years ago on Dec. 23, 2011, 4:25 p.m. EST by FriendlyObserverA (610)
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We live in a culture quick to " scoff, but seldom do we hear compliments.

With such rarity and scarcity I honestly am unsure of proper protocol ?

I have enjoyed the thoughtful , articulate , conversation on this website and am truly amazed at the turn out of highly developed individuals.



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[-] 1 points by kingscrossection (1203) 10 years ago

How often do you thank your waiter or waitress at a restaurant?

[-] 1 points by johnag (7) 10 years ago

Yes this site can really bring in the crazy's- which are here mostly to resist the growth of ows . never has there been a freedom movement like ows. which has grown at an amazing rate- presently covering the planet. The corrupt governments of the world are scared that ows will bring them down- and if they don't stop abusing there human population, that will happen.



[-] 0 points by NewEnglandPatriot (916) from Dartmouth, MA 10 years ago

Just simply , give thanks from time to time. Send love as well.....

[-] 0 points by NewEnglandPatriot (916) from Dartmouth, MA 10 years ago

They took the ability away by having automatic door openers in public places. I would always hold doors as would others, and we pay each other our compliments by simply saying, thank you.....

I miss the old fashioned doors, the new ones may appear neat, but have robbed us of this, and desensitized many to a simple giving of thanks, for holding a door. If I have a cart full of groceries, I often let someone with one two items ahead.

If not in a rush, and at an intersection where the other side has less of a chance of turning, I let them go. It usually gets a horn honk behind me as the light is about to change.. I will make them wait for their lack of consideration to others...

Ever notice how people "mark" or "claim" their parking spot by holding things up with their directional??? They never have the courtesy to use it on the road, People that have to get that spot, and fail to see that on the side of the building there are 10 closer ones. They even honk, as the person tries to load the minivan with the kids and groceries. There is still good out there, but there are always people in a rush that feel their time is more valuable than others.

I always pay my thanks whenever waved to go on the road by returning a courtesy wave...

There are those that are trolling 58 MPH in a 65, and when they see you putting on your directional , they speed up and prevent you from getting in front. Then you get behind them, they slow down again as their texting takes priority....Same people that have no consideration to wave a thanks, hold a door, or anything they have to fet that spot and cut everyone off... I try to share good wherever possible.. I call on all of you to do the same...


[-] 1 points by NewEnglandPatriot (916) from Dartmouth, MA 10 years ago

If everyone had some common courtesy instead of worrying about time all the time they would realize life is too short to sweat the small crap; There is plenty of time for one who finds time within oneself to make their time on this planet available for good and peace.

[-] 0 points by FriendlyObserverA (610) 10 years ago

Is a thankyou the same as a compliment ?

I was thinking of the accomplishments of an individual that we never seem to compliment.

[-] 0 points by NewEnglandPatriot (916) from Dartmouth, MA 10 years ago

It starts with a simple thank you.... It can be a simple "compliment of thanks" or "regards" for someone else holding a door. It goes a long way, and means to me that the person acknowledges you as courteous, and they themselves treat you as such.. ... Without that foundation, people lack it at a higher level...Accomplishments can be considered milestones, and often go overlooked in this day in age. Why would one give compliments of recognition, if they lack the simple skill of saying thanks to an every day 99%'er? Do you see where the foundation of society is breaking down? I was making a point as to why it is often not practiced at most levels nowadays.

I used to get awards at work, etc - but as time went on, I would set the bar higher and higher, and it would be later expected. Many have been eroded, or their "time" is too valuable to waste on things like this.

I volunteer. I get thanks, cards, awards, etc, and do not care about the ratings...

What accomplishments do you want to be recognized for? If that is what drives many, it is obvious that may be the reason itself many go un-noticed.

I pay my respects at the personal level, and go from there. Sure , pat a friend on the back when they graduate, or attend/throw a party for a marriage anniversary. Now a days those are accomplishments that must not be self centered.

[-] 0 points by FriendlyObserverA (610) 10 years ago

Thank you's and compliments do share a similar kindness.

Thank you for your efforts to respond. And I compliment you on your thoroughness and the way in which you have articulated the connection of courteousy and the breakdown of civilization.

[-] 0 points by NewEnglandPatriot (916) from Dartmouth, MA 10 years ago

Oh thank you too......there are still some good people out there - the rest on here demonstrate that 50% of us are shall we say nicely are already destined for .......